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Decluttering Tips and Tricks – Simple Guide!

Today I will be talking you through decluttering tips and tricks.

Modern life is busy. Or at least it has been until the last few weeks. Does your diary typically brim with appointments? Does your smartphone ping every few minutes with app notifications? Are your cupboards overflowing with stuff?

As the world slows down as a result of the Coronavirus, now is the ideal opportunity to take stock of what really matters.

Most of us are guilty of owning too many unnecessary belongings. As our homes creak under the weight of more inessential objects, clothes and clutter, it’s easy to see how the bustle of modern living has creeped into our home life. What many of us don’t realise is too much chaos and clutter can take a toll on both your physical and mental health. In fact, studies have found a link between people who live with clutter and higher levels of stress. Those who live with clutter are at greater risk of suffering depression.

If you want to improve your quality of life, have more energy and worry less, then the best way to start is by decluttering. And there’s never been a better time.

 

 

The benefits of decluttering

If you’re overwhelmed by the clutter and/or constantly looking after your stuff (picking it up, moving and cleaning it) then your home is probably feeling more of a burden than a joy.

There are so many benefits to decluttering your home. Clearing you clutter will lighten your heart and mind and create more time and space for you to do other things.

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Decluttering your home is just the first step to being able to simplify your life!

Here are just a few of the benefits you could start to enjoy:

  • More focus on what’s important: If you declutter your home, you’ll be removing all the stuff that you and your family don’t use, no longer need and get no enjoyment from.
  • More space: When you declutter your home, you end up with less stuff generally. It’s easier to look after what you’ve got left.
  • Easier to maintain: As it’s easier, it’s also quicker! Tidying the home and keeping it clean takes less time.
  • More freedom: Less time spent doing chores and looking after your home and the stuff in it, means you’ve got more time for other things which you WANT to do.
  • More time for what’s important: More time for being with your kids, your family, by yourself.
  • More energy: You’ll also have more energy to do other things because you won’t be worn out from playing catch-up with the housework, that constant battle against the toys or the dirty dishes and laundry piles that you’re sorting every evening.

 

Decluttering Tips and Tricks

Decluttering your home not only makes it easier to organise your possessions, the space feels calmer and more of a sanctuary, plus it is easier to clean. You also save time and money by knowing exactly what you own and where to find it. Once clutter is cleared, it leaves room for creativity so you could feel motivated to start new projects and achieve goals.

If you’re struggling and need guidance on how to declutter, you’ll need to get creative with your plans. Here are several interesting decluttering tips and tricks to get you started on decluttering your home:

 

Think about your overall goal

Decluttering is often associated with minimalism – owning as few things as possible. While minimalism can be a great lifestyle choice, others enjoy owning more items and derive pleasure and joy from their possessions.

Before you start decluttering your house, decide what you want the end product to look like, so you don’t get rid of too much or too little.

 

Have a plan of attack

Don’t try to declutter your whole home in a week – you’ll exhaust and overwhelm yourself. Declutter in bite-size chunks of between 30 minutes and a couple of hours.

Divide a room into quadrants or focus on contained spaces such as a drawer, cupboard or shelf. Arm yourself with paper and a pen to make notes of ‘actions’ and designate rubbish, recycling and donation bags.

 

Start with ‘storage’ areas

Lofts, basements and garages are prime locations to stash something quickly to avoid dealing with it. If you’re serious about having a clear out, start with these areas first and then you’ll have enough space to store things that you actually need.

 

Break up the work

Decluttering is a big job, and setting out to tackle your entire house can leave you feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, or confused about where to start. Instead, break your goal into smaller goals that will help you achieve a sense of accomplishment along the way.

A great way to tackle the decluttering process is by making a list of your rooms and the order you want to work on them (for instance, your closet, your medicine cabinet, or your basement).

You can also list items by group and sort through them based on their grouping (for instance, your books, clothes, or knick-knacks).

Choose the first room or group of items you want to declutter and start small (think a shelf or a drawer).

 

Don’t over attach

Remember that memories aren’t in ‘things‘, they are inside us instead. Of course, it is important to keep possessions which remind you of a loved one or a particular experience, but you don’t need 50 of such things?

Taking a photo can help you hold on to the special memories or meanings attached to objects without taking up much space at all – you’d be surprised at how much satisfaction you can get from a two-dimensional reproduction.

 

Separate donations and rubbish

Before you start going through your things, set up a system where you have a clear place for items that you’re going to give away to a second-hand store and a rubbish bag for items you’re going to throw away.

Using this method allows you to organize as you go. It’s also a good idea to set up bins for current projects you’re working on, or for items you need to return to someone else.

 

Don’t worry about the price

You may find yourself looking at a lightly-used piece of furniture and thinking about how much you paid for it.

The price you paid for the item is a “sunk cost”- you’ve already paid the price for it, and keeping it around (or paying to repair it if it’s showing wear) won’t necessarily add more value to your life.

When deciding whether to keep something or get rid of it, release yourself from thinking about previous costs and encourage yourself to think only about the present and future – consider if keeping the item will positively impact your life.

If it doesn’t, it’s time to let it go, whether you want to sell it or donate it.

 

Get rid of duplicates

If you discover that you own multiples of the same item – for example, four different can openers- ask yourself if you need all of these items.

Did you buy a second one because you couldn’t find the first one?

If so, resolve to keep one in a convenient place and donate or sell the rest.

 

Pay special attention to surfaces

Flat open surfaces like coffee tables, countertops, home office desks, nightstands, laundry room counters, and even the tops of kitchen cabinets can be magnets for junk piling up – it’s easy to use them as storage spaces for everything from keys to rubbish to coins to old appliances.

If you’re noticing a lot of clutter on your flat surfaces, think of a way to organize your habits – for instance, placing a small, attractive “junk box” on your kitchen counter where you can throw your keys, wallet, and other smaller items when you come into the house.

 

Make your storage spaces beautiful

If you spend a ton of time meticulously reorganizing and decluttering your home only to store everything in unsightly cardboard boxes or shoe boxes, you may end up feeling like your house doesn’t look any neater.

When you start a decluttering project, get creative about your space and think of storage solutions to organise the items you’ll have left.

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Are there more attractive storage bins you can use for your items? Can you add shower rods or a clothes rack and hangers near the entryway to hang coats?

Can you add a bookshelf or cubby set up for shoes, kitchen items, books, or papers? Install DIY shelving on the wall to keep things from piling up on the counter? Add hooks to your closet wall to store items like purses and jewellery.

 

 

Set up natural declutterers

If you notice a “problem area” where more clutter than average accumulates, think of ways to avoid that build-up in the future.

Do you have a bad habit of letting junk mail pile up on the coffee table or kitchen counter? Set up a recycling bin right next to where you look at your mail, so you’ll naturally toss the junk before it has a chance to pile up.

 

Declutter regularly

Clutter will start to accumulate, even for vigilant homeowners who are consistently tidying up.

Rather than letting the clutter frustrate you, accept that it’s normal – and commit to occasional “mini-declutterings” and clean-ups (whether that’s once a month or once a year) to keep a mess-free home.

 

Less is more

Take a good look at the furniture in your home. Does it fit properly or would you be better off with more space?

It’s easy to acquire excess furniture and then procrastinate over the decision to let it go. The British Heart Foundation offer a free collection service for your unwanted furniture.

 

Ask for help

Sometimes the task of tackling decluttering on your own can feel overwhelming. Get family and friends involved to make it more enjoyable or enlist the help of a professional – they have the experience and ideas to help you make the most out of the space you have, the expertise to advise you on what to do with unwanted possessions and they can teach you to maintain the changes for good.

You can find an accredited professional in your area through APDO (Association of Professional Declutterers & Organisers).

 

Decluttering Tips and Tricks – Final thought

So, what do you think? Are you ready to give your home the decluttering it deserves? Trust me when I say this will change your life! Less belongings mean less things to clean, organize, and put away all of the time.

I don’t know about you, but that is a huge win in my book! There’s so much less stress in a clutter free home.

Keeping a small home decluttered is absolutely essential. Clutter adds up so quickly! And by keeping your home decluttered is how you keep your home looking nice and sanity intact.

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12 Habits of People Who Always Have Clean Homes

Do you find yourself feigning excuses for why your friend can’t pop up to your place to use the loo before a film?

Ever turn beetroot red with embarrassment when unexpected guests enter your home? It sounds like you have a messy house.

Imagine how much more enjoyable life would be if you were one of those perpetually tidy people whose homes could be company-ready with 15 minutes’ notice.

We wanted to turn our clean fantasies into a reality, so we researched the daily habits of people with clean houses — note the word “habits.”

What we learned is that it takes more than a few deep cleanings to achieve this status of cleaning goddess/god.

It takes daily work and preparation to keep your house in a constant state of near perfection.

 

 

Why should you form daily habits for a clean home?

You want to make it a habit because decluttering only once in a while will not keep your home tidy.

Keeping your home tidy should be an ongoing daily process.

Making it a daily habit works, because we want our homes to always look tidy, not once in a month when you do the purging.

Implement daily habits saves you time and effort in the long run.

What are the benefits of having a clutter-free home?

  • Living in a clean home reduces stress for you and your family
  • More focus and concentration for all (proven by research)
  • Reduces workload because you don’t have to do it all at once “later
  • Saves time because you no longer have to look for lost items
  • Saves money by not buying unnecessary items because you start to become aware of the clutter it can cause

I hope I have convinced you that daily decluttering is not hard and in fact really beneficial

Read on to discover the 12 habits of people who always have clean homes, and how you can adopt them to get out of the disaster zone you’ve been living in.

 

12 Habits of People Who Always Have Clean Homes

Start by making the bed

I know some people think that making the bed is a waste of time, but it really makes a big difference in how tidy the room looks and only takes a couple of minutes.

Plus, I think it starts off the day well, and I love climbing into a made bed at the end of the day.

To make things easier, simplify your bedding as much as possible. We ended up cutting out our top sheets (as they always just ended up in a big puddle at the end of the bed anyways) and just use a duvet and washable cover.

If you love your top sheets though, you can look at minimising the number of pillows on your bed or using a large enough comforter or duvet that you don’t need to tuck in your sheets.

 

They’re constantly offloading clutter

Clutter is like a magnet, clutter attracts clutter,” says Amy Revell and Kirsty Farrugia, hosts of The Art of Decluttering podcast, and founder of the professional home organisation service of the same name.

A home that has less stuff is so much easier to keep tidy,” says Amy and Kirsty. “Each day consider what items you no longer need that could leave your home.”

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There are plenty decluttering methods out there – from the quasi-spiritual KonMari method to the everyday, practical approach taken by Amy and Kirsty.

Listen to their podcast on Acast to discover solutions to real-world sources of clutter including sentimental papers, sports equipment, Tupperware and more.

 

They don’t shove things into a junk drawer of cupboard

So, you’ve done a quick clean-up, only to blink your eyes and find that your home is again in a state of ruin.

Jo Carmichael, professional organiser and founder of All Sorted Out says hurried, ad hoc tidy-ups just don’t work.

What often happens with the ‘fast clean” scenario is that the items strewn around on furniture and the floor are simply shoved into a wardrobe or drawer, she says. “It quickly tumbles back into an unrecognisable pile of clutter once the family returns home and starts living.”

 

They store like with ‘like’

The solution is to seek out spaces where clutter hides and start storing like with like.

Keeping like with like, means it’s easier to put things away and find them, because t-shirts are together – not mixed up with jeans or socks.

This will allow you to get ready quicker, and put your hands on the item you need without having to look twice.

 

Clean the shower while you’re in it

One handy tip is to give the shower a little scrub while you’re already showering.

It can be a huge pain to scrub down all of the soap scum at once, so why not do a quick once-over of the shower walls and floor while you’re rinsing your hair?

Top Tip:

One of the best products for keeping the shower clean is natural dish soap because it is designed to fight grease—which is mostly what’s in the soap scum lining your shower walls!

 

 

Clean as you cook

This is the best way to avoid a massive headache at the end of a meal, which you know you’re going to want to walk away and leave until tomorrow.

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Even if you need to keep both eyes on the burners, at least wash any easy dishes and utensils, and fill up your sink to help soak those greasy pots and pans.

Before you go to bed, start the dishwasher (if you have one that is), so you can empty it first thing in the morning, freeing up dishwasher space for when you cook again next! It’s all about the habit!

 

Keep surfaces clear

Flat surfaces collect clutter like none other. Flat surfaces are also what you see as you scan the room, so when you have clutter on flat surfaces, it seems like every space in your home is cluttered.

The more you can keep tables, floors, beds, and countertops clear, the cleaner and more spacious these areas feel.

The biggest clutter culprit is paper, so don’t let it pile up. Recycle unnecessary mail the minute it comes in and create a filing system for the rest of your important documents and to-do reminders.

 

Keep cleaning supplies handy where you use them

Keep small batches of needed cleaning supplies in key places around the home (kitchen, bathrooms, and cleaning closets) to give yourself more opportunities to find what you need.

A spray bottle of all-purpose cleaner and a stack of cleaning cloths under all of your sinks could be the difference between quickly wiping up a little spot or spill, and forgetting about it until the next time you have to deep-clean the house. This will save you lots of time in the end.

 

Wipe it down before you walk away

A quick wipe down can do wonders. If you wipe down the surface you’ve used after each use, you’ll keep counters and glass surfaces clean and ready to be used each time.

From wiping down your glass shower door to swiping your sink after washing the dishes, a quick clean can prevent grime build up and keep your surfaces spotless.

 

Tackle a load of laundry/washing each day

Avoid overflowing hampers by giving your washer a work out each day. It’s an unavoidable task (keeping your family clothed is kind of necessary), so if you do it on a consistent basis, it won’t pile up and take over your entire Sunday.

 

Clean your fridge on a weekly basis

Seeing some scary goop under your groceries in the corner of your fridge? You’re not doing it right.

Give your refrigerator a weekly refresh. Not only will cleaning your fridge help you keep things spick-and-span, but it will also help you create an accurate list of what you need on your next run to the store.

 

Finish the day with a 10-minute tidying session

For all of those things that got left behind, make a nightly pick-up part of your routine.

Set aside just 10 to 15 minutes every night—put on music if it makes the process more fun—and return everything to its “home, or designated spot”, from toys to magazines.

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If you have a few minutes left over, run a cleaning cloth over counters, or do a quick sweep, devoting five minutes to a different area every night.

One of the best things to wake up to in the morning is a clean home.

 

12 Habits of People Who Always Have Clean Homes – Final thought

Most of these habits are super quick actions that take less than a minute or two.

When you master these habits, your home will become tidy and clutter-free.

But don’t be too hard on yourself. Remember, habit change takes time. So, give yourself time to adopt these habits one or two at a time.

Go make your habit reminder notes right away and get started today!

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10 Stress Management Techniques – Simple Guide!

Stress is an inevitable part of life. It comes and goes at the worst of times. Unfortunately, it can be a hindrance by decreasing productivity levels, increasing anxiety, and lowering our overall mood.

There are also many different kinds of stress that affect us in different ways.

Fortunately for all of us, there are things we can do to effectively manage stress and prevent it from completely taking over and causing burn out.

They range between self-care practices to integrating healthy routines into your everyday life.

Using a few of these techniques can be a complete game changer when implemented into a daily practice.

Disclaimer: I am not in any way a certified therapist so all the advice is given from my own experience and should not be taken as medical advice. 

 

 

What Is Stress?

Stress is your body’s response to changes in your life.

Because life involves constant change – ranging from every day, routine changes like commuting from home to work to adapting to major life changes like marriage, divorce, or death of a loved one – there is no avoiding stress.

Your goal shouldn’t be to eliminate all stress but to eliminate unnecessary stress and effectively manage the rest.

There are some common causes of stress that many people experience, but each person is different.

Here are a few of my favourite stress management techniques.

 

10 Stress Management Techniques

Accept there are some things you can’t control

This one takes no time at all really, but it does require a commitment to changing your mindset. A lot of the time we get stressed out by things that are totally out of control.

Because they are out of control it really becomes a waste of energy to constantly stress out over them.

For example, specific demands of your job, the fact that we’re living through a pandemic in 2020/2021, the weather, traffic, or the thoughts and actions of other people.

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I’m not saying you shouldn’t stress at all over things like this, but you can’t let it consume you and cause you stress day after day.

For the sake of a simple example: getting super stressed out on your long commute home through traffic. Unless you go find a new job closer to home this is totally out of your control.

So as a stress management technique, accept that fact and then make the most of the situation. For example, listen to an audio book or podcast, call a friend (hands free of course), or find somewhere new to stop and explore on the way home.

If not, you’re just going to be super stressed every evening and you’ll probably have no energy to do anything by the time you get home.

 

 

Be physically Active

Research consistently proves that physical activity both reduces stress levels and helps to prevent many of the negative side-effects of stressful life events.

The great news is that you don’t need to run a marathon or devote all your days to the gym to enjoy the benefits of exercise.

Almost any type of physical activity will help purge you of tension and lead to the production of endorphins; those “feel-good” chemicals that boost mood and energy.

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Aim for 30 minutes of exercise 3-5 times a week, but if your fitness levels are low then try starting out with just 10 minutes of activity.

As you exercise, tune into your bodily sensations and notice your own physicality; this is a form of mindfulness, which promotes stress control in itself.

Here are some fun and easy ways to get your heart rate up:

  • Dance to your favourite song
  • Walk to the store instead of driving
  • Walk your dog, or borrow someone else’s for half an hour
  • Take the stairs every time there’s an option
  • Find an exercise buddy, and go to classes together.

 

Start your day off right

High energy levels in the mornings (although this may sometimes seem impossible) are essential to start the day and, hopefully, end the day with a positive outlook and a clear mindset.

Staying hydrated, avoiding coming to work on an empty stomach and aiming to be well rested overnight will all contribute to better mornings and more motivation.

You may also find it beneficial to give yourself a little extra time in the mornings to get ready for the day. This will prevent rush and panic and ensure you are fully prepared for whatever is thrown your way.

 

 

Practice Mindfulness

Put simply, mindfulness means creating an awareness of ourselves in a present moment, by paying attention to our thoughts and feelings, noticing the world around us and reconnecting with the sensations it brings.

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Mindfulness can aid mental wellbeing – when you’re having a moment of stress, take a moment to stand back and reflect. You’ll notice how busy your mind can get, and mindfulness can help to slow it down.

You can find more mindfulness tips on the Mind website, including exercise to help you put it into practise.

 

 

Avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms

At the other end of the spectrum, smoking, drinking and binge-eating are all common coping strategies amongst people who are stressed, but turning to vices isn’t a legitimate way to process your emotions.

Take steps to remove these options, whether it’s not keeping cigarettes in the house or making a weekly meal plan so you can’t order takeaways, to help yourself to stop relying on these unhealthy habits. The short-term release is exhilarating, but they’re likely to make you feel worse in the long run.

 

Get Enough Sleep

Sleep deficit has just about become an epidemic in contemporary society. Continuously pushed to accomplish and produce, practically every single person is accountable for depriving themselves of rest.

In a stressful situation, you may attempt to “pull an all-nighter” to fulfil a deadline or do some last second studying, but contrary to what your over-stressed mind is suggesting; a well-rested mind and body will be able to achieve far more, without over-taxing your system.

 

 

Do a brain dump

A brain dump is simply the act of dumping all the contents of your mind onto paper as one might dump the contents of a purse onto a table.

You are spilling out stressors, your nagging thoughts, your pesky annoyances. Simply open up a valve in your mind and let all those thoughts flow out of your hand and onto some paper.

Write until you feel like the pressure inside of you is lessened and you can take a deep breath. Then you will have achieved a brain dump.

 

 

Think positive

Employ the power of positive thinking. Rather than incessantly worrying about the same things over and over, break the cycle and train your brain to think in a way that is positive and uplifting.

One way to do this is to envision the results that you want, rather than thinking about the results that you’re afraid of.

Imagine everything working out. Sometimes, just the very thought of things unfolding in your favour can be truly inspiring.

Another approach is to practice positive affirmations.

 

 

Flow activities

When you’re stressed, sometimes the best strategy can be distraction – especially when it’s with a simple task that makes you feel in control and has a series of steps to follow.

Psychologists call these ‘flow’ activities, switching off the conscious brain and putting you into a calming, meditative state.

Think baking, cleaning or organising, all processes which give you a clear, easily achievable goal and give you a massive satisfaction boost when complete.

 

 

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I hope you were able to take some of these tips and tricks and add them into your stress management tool box to use when you need them.

Stress can be such a nuisance and is really unnecessary. Let’s stick together and find a way to live a more relaxed, productive, and happy life!

What are your tips for stress relief? I would love to hear them.

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5 4 3 2 1 Grounding Exercise – Simple Guide!

Stress and anxiety have skyrocketed in recent years — in kids and adults.

It’s crucial we discover strategies to cope, to become more resilient, and manage these uncomfortable feelings.

This five-step 54321 grounding exercise is favourited by many therapists and will help you (and your kids) during periods of stress, anxiety, or even when you just need a little break.

Below, we will walk you through specific instructions to complete this simple but extremely effective 54321 grounding exercise.

Disclaimer: I am not in any way a certified therapist so all the advice is given from my own experience and should not be taken as medical advice. 

 

 

What is grounding?

Grounding as a coping skill has been around for some time. The purpose of grounding is to divert focus from something distressing to something more pleasant.

By shifting focus to something in the environment, we can better control what we experience. To do so, we concentrate on using the information our five senses provide.

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For example, if I were anxious over something, and could not stop thinking about it, I would look around and focus on something I see, to begin distracting myself from my anxiety.

After performing a grounding exercise, you will be able to shift your focus away from your anxiety by becoming more aware of what is around you.

Grounding is a series of exercises designed to use all your senses. For each sense, you note what your senses are telling you. To begin, we will focus on sight.

 

5 4 3 2 1 Grounding Exercise

Before you begin the 54321 grounding exercise, you need to take deep, slow, and long breaths as your first priority. This will achieve a calm state of mind before proceeding to the following steps:

 

5. SEE

Acknowledge five things that you can see around you.

Options can range from a pen or stapler at your office, to a bird or tree while you’re out at the local park.

If you’re at home, you can look at a family photo on the wall or a glass of water on the kitchen counter. You can pick between big and small items to keep your options open.

 

4. TOUCH

Acknowledge four things that you can touch around you. You can start with your hair, hands, elbows, and other parts of your body if you’re short on time.

The ground beneath your feet, whether it’s the floor of your bedroom or the office at work, also helps. Pillows, desks, phones, and keyboards can fit this step.

 

3. HEAR

Acknowledge three things you can hear around you. Instead of listening to your own thoughts or sounds from your body like your stomach growling, focus on external noises.

Examples include someone driving a car nearby, a clock ticking, or a dog barking. If you’re at work, you can listen to typing and the steps of people walking by your desk.

 

2. SMELL

Acknowledge two things around you that you can smell.

This step may be a challenge compared to the others, so it’s best to go to a place with more sources of scent if you don’t smell anything wherever you are at the moment.

The outdoors has plenty of options for smells, and the soap in bathrooms also helps. Your furniture can provide pleasant smells for this step when you’re home.

 

1. TASTE

Acknowledge one thing around you that you can taste. It doesn’t necessarily have to be food, as toothpaste and minty floss you use in the morning or at night are easy sources.

You can also go with the oatmeal you have for breakfast, the sandwich and crisps you have for lunch, or the pasta you have for dinner.

Coffee, tea, and other drinks you have to get through the day also work.

End this exercise with a long, deep breath.

 

5 4 3 2 1 Grounding Exercise – Final thought

With these steps, you will be able to get the most out of the moment.

Focusing on your senses will help you be more mindful, which will then help you accomplish your tasks and experience success.

As a result, you can defeat your anxiety and feel in control of your life. Put this technique into practice to so that you can improve your health and make those big days fun!

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How to become more motivated – Simple Guide!

When reaching for a big goal, self-motivation plays a key role. But making a change in your life requires persistence, and many of us find it difficult to stay motivated over time.

When setting out to achieve a long-term goal, whether it’s to get healthy, make a midlife career change, or realise a personal dream, the beginning is easy. You’re full of vitality and determination to face the challenge.

However, many of our most precious goals don’t happen quickly. It takes hard work, persistence, and discipline to change your life.

When results don’t come as quickly as you expect, or when nothing goes right, it’s natural to feel frustrated and have difficulty staying motivated.

Exploring how to find motivation will provide the tools to overcome dips, develop mental toughness, improve your focus on your goals, and keep you on a steady path toward success.

So, let’s begin!

 

 

What Is self-motivation?

In order to find motivation, we first need to understand what we’re really talking about.

Motivation is simply the force driving your behaviour. It’s the why behind everything you do, and the reason you might take up a cause, commit to an action, or work toward a goal. Everything we do is motivated by some combination of conscious and unconscious need or desire.

When we talk about self-motivation, we are going beyond basic motives. What we really mean is the ability to follow through on making a positive change in life — without giving up. Self-motivation requires that you believe in yourself, stay inspired, and keep going despite setbacks.

In other words, we are talking about grit.

Psychologist Angela Duckworth studied the characteristics of high achievers and discovered that passion and perseverance are the key drivers of long-term success. Grit takes you farther than the initial motive behind your goal, after the buzz of excitement wears off. Grit takes you all the way to the finish line.

So, how can we learn to harness these qualities and develop the self-motivation to succeed?

 

What drives motivation? 

Although self-motivation requires a long-term view, it’s important to look at what is motivating you to seek change.

The clearer you are on why, the easier it will be to stay focused on the work you’re doing, and to create the life you want.

Sometimes motives can hide in plain sight, hidden within the subconscious, telling us deep down inside that something needs to change.

Desires can evolve, sometimes in a flash of inspiration, and sometimes through self-discovery over time.

You’ll have an easier time staying motivated by recognising the motives behind your goals.

Becoming aware of these motives, and their source, improves self-awareness while also keeping you on track toward goals that truly matter to you.

 

How to become more motivated

Change isn’t easy for anyone. Finding self-motivation requires long-term commitment, courage, and perseverance. But that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.

It simply means you have to find ways to give yourself a boost when you need it, and avoid giving up when you hit a dip.

Here are the best ways to stay motivated, no matter how much you feel like giving up:

 

Just Start

Urgh. Don’t you just hate this advice?

Still, there’s a reason we’ve all heard it a million times: it can work wonders.

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You don’t always need to reason with your emotions or rationalize why you need to do something. You can deal with those negative feelings later on, at the right time. Instead, try setting aside all of the negative emotions and simply START.

As the famous writer Mark Twain once said: “The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”

 

Break tasks down into small steps

Woah… another piece of ground-breaking, never-heard-before advice, right?

Again, there’s a reason so many people recommend that you use this tactic when trying to motivate yourself – sometimes it’s the simplest things done well that work the best.

Remember, you can’t do everything at once. That’s why the painter Vincent Van Gogh said, “Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.”

Here’s a method to help you find motivation to get things done: Write down what you need to do on a piece of paper. Then, write down every single step you need to take to make it happen. Finally, ignore everything except the step you’re working on.

Once in the flow, you may just find it easier to continue with the next task.

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Create a positive mindset

Getting motivated is almost impossible if you’re looking at the situation from a negative viewpoint. On the other hand, positivity can be energizing and help you to motivate yourself.

So, pause and ask yourself, “what’s good about this situation?”

As the author Catherine Pulsifer said, “If we have the attitude that it’s going to be a great day it usually is.”

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Create a feeling of gratitude

When you find yourself stuck in a rut, it can feel impossible to motivate yourself. So before you try to motivate yourself, take a step back and try to appreciate how you feel.

When you feel appreciation for yourself, it’s much easier to stay motivated.

One of the quickest ways to feel good about yourself is to practice gratitude – it’s almost entirely impossible to feel low and grateful at the same time.

To practice gratitude, start by writing down three things you’re grateful for. These could be anything – from your morning coffee, to your pet, or even the comfortable chair you sit on.

Ideally, you could make this part of your daily routine to find everyday motivation.

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Be kind to yourself

When you procrastinate or make a mistake, it’s easy to beat yourself up. In fact, if you’re like many people, you may find that you internally “speak” to yourself in a mean way.

If you notice yourself doing this, pause and try to speak to yourself kindly instead. You wouldn’t speak to someone else that way, so why do it to yourself? You deserve your own kindness.

Try to remember your true inherent value as a human being. Then, allow yourself to gently come back to the task at hand.

 

 

Be constructive

When you realise you’ve made a mistake or finally bring yourself back from a procrastination session, you have a golden opportunity to learn and improve.

Ask yourself, “Why did I make this mistake? How can I avoid making the same mistake in the future?”

If you do this and act on what you learn, you’ll transform mistakes into opportunities.

The entrepreneur Arianna Huffington said, “We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes – understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.”

 

Cut your to-do list down

To-do lists can help us organize our tasks and focus on what’s important. However, they can also overwhelm us so much that we end up procrastinating even more.

So, if you find yourself struggling to stay motivated, cut your to-do list down to a more manageable size.

Each day, choose no more than three tasks and make that your new to-do list. Then, ignore all but the first item. You may find that with time, you can take on a longer to-do list.

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Set attainable goals that excite you

If you have a goal that feels too big or unattainable, it may make you feel crippled with anxiety and fear. This is a sure-fire way to prevent yourself from developing motivation.

For now, let go of goals that paralyze you. Instead, choose exciting enough goals to help you motivate yourself, but not so big that you freeze when facing them.

As the politician Theodore Roosevelt said, “Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.”

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Imagine your future if you don’t change

This tip can make inspiring yourself easy: Instead of focusing on the change you want, imagine the life you’ll have if you don’t stay motivated.

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Ask yourself, “What will life be like in one year, five years, and ten years?”

Here’s a motivational quote from an anonymous wise person: “You can either experience the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The choice is yours.”

 

Reflect on how far you’ve come

How often do you pause, reflect, and appreciate how far you’ve come?

If you’re like many people, you probably don’t give yourself enough credit for all the growth you’ve gone through.

Take a few minutes to close your eyes and remember your successes, however small – relive and feel into them.

Do this often to help you stay motivated.

 

Remind yourself of your “why”

Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook, said, “Motivation comes from working on things we care about.”

Take a moment to write down three reasons you want to find motivation to get things done. Do you want to improve your fitness, get an education, save money, or start a business?

Why?

Keep coming up with answers until you find ones that will help you stay motivated.

 

Eliminate distractions mercilessly

Distractions are the enemy of focus. If you want to get motivated, you have to eliminate distractions.

As the billionaire investor Warren Buffett said, “The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say ‘no’ to almost everything.”

The saying goes, “You can have anything you want. However, you can’t have everything you want.”

So, turn your phone off and leave it in a different room. Close the door. Turn the music off. Delete distracting apps.

Remind yourself that you are not punishing yourself – you’re just focusing on your goals. Then, remember what you truly want in the long-term.

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Commit 100% to the deal you’re making

Remember, nothing comes for free.

When you want something, you have to give something in return – whether it’s time, effort, hard work, or emotional discomfort.

That’s the deal.

Take a moment to recognize and appreciate the deal you’re making. Then commit to it 100%.  Maya Angelou, the activist and poet, once said, “Nothing will work unless you do.”

 

Declutter and tidy

It’s extremely difficult to motivate yourself if you can’t see your bedroom floor and your desk looks like something has exploded on it.

Have you ever heard the expression, “tidy space, tidy mind”?

What’s your environment like? Is it tidy, neat, and clean? Or is it messy and cluttered? Work from the outside in and create an environment that helps you to stay motivated.

 

Change your inputs

You know the saying, “you are what you eat.” And we consume a lot every day – food, music, podcasts, TV, social media.

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So, if you’re finding it challenging to motivate yourself, mix things up a bit. Listen to motivational podcasts, check out a must-read book, or watch some inspiring videos.

This can help you to freshen up, get energized, and find motivation to get things done.

 

Look to people in your life for motivation

Some people energise us, others we find draining.

The motivational speaker Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

So, when possible, seek out enthusiastic, motivated people to spend time with. Let yourself get wrapped up in their positive energy, and you may start developing self-motivation, too.

 

Ask for help from friends and family

If you’re really struggling to motivate yourself, consider asking a close friend or family member for help. You could ask them to hold you accountable and check up on your progress.

By expressing your goals out loud to someone else, it can help to make them feel more real. Plus, if you know someone will check in on your progress, you may be more likely to follow through.

 

Follow inspiring people who motivate you

There are so many inspiring people out there who can help you to motivate yourself. Is there an entrepreneur, teacher, musician, or politician you find inspiring?

You can also learn how people you admire stay motivated, and then apply the lessons to your own life.

As the ancient Greek philosopher Socrates once said, “Smart people learn from everything and everyone, average people from their experiences, stupid people already have all the answers.”

 

Listen to an upbeat song

If you need to motivate yourself quickly, try this super-simple tip: listen to a song you love that’s upbeat, inspiring, and full of energy.

For bonus points, dance like a crazy person at the same time.

Then, as soon as the song finishes, don’t pause – dive straight into action. It may become one of your favourite ways to stay motivated.

 

Remember your power and potential

Look, you are powerful, and you have enormous potential.

You may not feel like it sometimes, and you may even feel like I’m silly for saying it to you, but it’s true.

The author Alice Walker said, “The most common reason people give up their power is because they think they don’t have any.”

So, please, take a moment to dig deep and try to connect with your inner power and potential – imagine what you could achieve.

Become still.

Then listen to that quiet voice in your head saying, “You can do this.”

 

 

How to become more motivated – final thought

Remember that changing your life for the better doesn’t happen overnight. When you set out to achieve a big goal, expect to progress in small steps.

When you feel a dip in self-motivation, remember all the concrete actions you can take to avoid crashing and giving up too soon. Turn to your friends, get guidance from wise people in your circle, practice self-care, and stay positive.

Celebrate your successes every step of the way because pursuing a big dream isn’t easy, but you are worth it.

What are your tips for staying motivated? I would love to hear them.

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Time management tips and techniques

Time I will be talking you through time management tips and techniques.

Do you have a lot to get done, but you don’t know where to start? So many people think they do not have enough time to do the things they need and want to do.

Most people, however, just need to learn to manage their time better. If you have a super-long to-do list it can be overwhelming to figure out how to fit it all into your day.

You do not have to implement all of these tips to be successful. Feel free to pick one or two that resonate with you and start there.

Even utilising a few of the techniques on this list will help you make your day more manageable.

Once you master a few, you can move on and choose a couple more to work on later. It doesn’t matter what you have going on, whether at work or at home, these time management tips are sure to make you more productive.

People are busier today than ever before. Sometimes we go so far as to glorify busy as if taking on too much is a badge of honour that we should wear proudly.

We have to be careful about how we choose to spend our time. It is so important to manage your time well, so you can spend more time on the things that truly matter.

I hope you have a good idea of what that is for you, so you can focus your efforts accordingly.

Below are 10 simple time management tips and techniques that will skyrocket your productivity.

 

 

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Shift your mindset

One of the best time management skills you can adopt is the ability to shift your mindset. To have an open mind; able to understand fresh perspectives and to be willing to question them.

Basically, to challenge both yourself and your assumptions in regards to how things work.

One great way to do this is to simply ask yourself why. For example, why…

  • Do I do X first thing in the morning?
  • Am I responsible for X tasks?
  • Is there only so much of X?

These questions are meant to help you understand the big picture. Because you’ll often find that the work you do isn’t aligned with your goals.

Which is a problem.

So, from time to time, ask yourself why.

You may just discover some new ways of doing things. Or better yet, that some things that you do now don’t need to be done at all!

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Utilise a calendar

Ah, the calendar. Seen by many as one of the top time management strategies (myself included).

Why?

Because of how helpful it is in organizing your life.

Whether planning for today, for your week, or for a year from now, using a calendar is a must.

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Most smartphones come with a calendar built in. Personally, I use the default one that comes on Apple devices. I’ve also heard great things about Google Calendar too. You can use a free app or a paper calendar. You can use a notebook or a spreadsheet.

It doesn’t matter as long as you have some sort of system for planning.

Use your calendar as a way to plan for the future, to stay organized, and to manage your time.

 

Stop multitasking

Plain and simple – multitasking doesn’t work.

I used to consider myself the king of multitasking… until I realized that I wasn’t actually getting anything done.

So, if you’re wondering how to manage time effectively, keep this one in mind. Because by spreading your focus too thin (i.e., multitasking), you won’t be able to actually get anything done.

Instead, then, create a list of what you need to do. Pick the most important item on that list and start working on it with clarity and focus.

Close out of your social media, put your phone on airplane mode, and get it done!

By single-tasking instead of multitasking, you will make huge strides in whatever you are trying to get done.

 

Be flexible

What? Be flexible? Didn’t you just tell me to plan out my life with a calendar?

Yes, but there’s more to time management than just using a calendar.

Things will happen unexpectedly. Problems arise here or there, deadlines change, software crashes.

Life will mess up your plans occasionally.

And when that happens, you need to be flexible.

In those moments, use your time to the best of your ability, but don’t be too hard on yourself if other things take precedence. Be flexible with your schedule and open to the fact that things will change and you’ll have to adapt as you go.

However, don’t use those events as an excuse to stop working towards your goals.

Instead, once the unexpected situation is resolved, get back to the task at hand with determination and drive.

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Know when to say no (and yes!)

You may feel the urge to say yes to every single thing that comes your way. It’s a common feeling that many share.

And I get it. You don’t want to miss out on an opportunity. So, if you say yes to everything, you’ll never miss a thing.

That’s not true though.

Keep in mind that one of the best time management skills that you should develop is to recognize when to say yes and when to say no. Because if you say yes to one opportunity, that means you are simultaneously saying no to potentially hundreds of other opportunities.

For example, if you attend a conference over the weekend that you have no interest in, that’s time that you could’ve spent:

  • Working on your side project
  • Exercising
  • Reading
  • Spending time with loved ones
  • Updating your resume for a better job

But instead of doing any of those things, you’re sitting in some poorly lit meeting room listening to someone drone on about something you’re never going to use.

So, recognise that every time you say yes to one thing you are also saying no to something else and decide accordingly.

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Optimise your meetings

Meetings are time wasters.

At best they help move a project along. At worst they burn an hour from your otherwise productive day.

So similar to recognising when to say yes and no, take the time to understand which meetings will provide value to you before agreeing to them.

If deemed not valuable, politely decline.

Or if you determine that it’s an important meeting to attend, make sure that:

  • Only the necessary people are there. Keep it small and concise.
  • There is an outline of topics that will be covered.
  • That it is scheduled for a short period and ends on time.

I try and avoid meetings at all costs, but when I need to attend them, I make sure they follow those guidelines.

 

Don’t be afraid to pick up the phone

Here’s one of the best (and simplest) time management skills to develop – pick up the phone.

Sending emails back and forth wastes time. Communication can often fall apart, message deliveries can get delayed, people can take days to respond.

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If you are looking to get things done fast, try picking up the phone and calling the other person instead.

Doing so will avoid unnecessary time waste and miscommunication.

 

Prioritise

With an ever-expanding list of to-dos, it is imperative that you prioritize the important versus the non.

So, go through your list and determine which items are important, not important, urgent, and not urgent (often referred to as the Eisenhower Matrix).

Use your goals as a reference point to help determine which items should be worked on first.

Put the urgent, important items at the top of your list and either remove or put the not urgent, not important items at the bottom.

Slow down and prioritise!

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Get motivated

Whether it’s work, your routine, or overall health, burnout is not fun to deal with.

So be proactive!

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Experiment with different ways of keeping yourself fresh and motivated. Build in some new positive habits, try out some new techniques, keep pushing onward.

Treat your mind and body well so that you can sustain your energy levels through the long haul.

You can be more productive!

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Learn to focus

To close out the list of time management skills, one skill that you’ll greatly benefit from developing is focus.

Because the better you can focus, the easier it will be for you to complete important tasks and get real work done. It’s a truly essential skill to have in your time management tool belt.

So, try putting:

  • Your phone on airplane mode so that you don’t get distracted
  • Some music on that helps you focus
  • Your current workspace aside and go find a quieter place to get work done

The key to making this time management skill work is to uncover what best allows you to concentrate.

 

 

Time management tips and techniques – Final thought

Just like learning how to use a hammer or paint a wall, building out your time management skill repertoire will take time.

It won’t be immediate and it won’t happen overnight.

But if you take little steps forward with your skills each day, your ability to effectively manage your time and get more done will continue to grow and grow.

So, get to it!

Push forward and make the progress you’re after!

Use the time management skills listed above and start harnessing your time like never before.

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Daily affirmations for self esteem

Today I will talking through daily affirmations for self-esteem and how they can have a positive impact on your mindset.

Self-esteem is how much you appreciated yourself. How much value you put in yourself? In other words, self-esteem is feeling good about yourself.

Using positive self-esteem affirmations can aid you in increasing your positive view of yourself.

Sometimes we are going through hard situations in our lives and need a little booster to feel better and affirmations could be what makes the difference in our day.

Affirmations for self-esteem can help you feel better and help you start developing more self-love.

Practicing affirmations could be an easy and quick way of raising your energy and your spirits in the mornings, or can used throughout the day if you need a pick me up mentally.

Affirmations are definitely a good to start your day!

I start my day with morning affirmations and have created a routine. Affirmations are short phrases you can use every day.

Just repeat them and believe in them as you are saying them.

 

 

What’s an affirmation?

A positive affirmation is a statement used to challenge a negative and unhelpful thought.

By repeating a positive affirmation, you begin to challenge your unhelpful subconscious thinking patterns and replace them with more realistic and helpful ones.

They can be used to boost your self-esteem, help you achieve your goals, or help you push through fear.

Affirmations have been incredibly useful to me. They’ve helped me, time and time again, to break out of negative thinking patterns and to build healthier ones.

In the past, I’ve used them to boost my confidence, push through fear, build boundaries in life, and to find greater joy in life.

Today though, I’m looking for some to boost my self-esteem. If you’ve been going through something similar, I hope these affirmations will remind and empower you to be your authentically incredible selves!

Choose one affirmation that speaks most to you (or write your own version!) and repeat it to yourself each morning.

Let’s boost your self-esteem!

 

How to practice affirmations for self-esteem?

These are lots of ways to use affirmations and people use them differently. Some people speak them into a mirror on a morning, others run them through their minds when negative thoughts begin to plague them.

I have a different method of doing my daily affirmations that may work for you if you like to journal. Every day, I choose one affirmation that resonates with me and write it in my journal.

I find that repeating the affirmation throughout the day to myself gradually helps change my thought process over time.

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Affirmations are not a quick fix for mental health problems. Like any thought changing behaviour, they take time, patience and a lot of practice.

Our negative self-talk builds up over time and it can take some time to alter these thought patterns. I promise that you are more special than you believe.

You can get started with this list of 100 affirmations for self-esteem below. I hope they help to inspire and motivate you towards a healthier mindset.

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Daily affirmations for self esteem

  1. I love my body and all it does for me
  2. I am enough
  3. I am worthy of love
  4. I respect my own boundaries
  5. Today, I choose me
  6. I love the woman/man that I am
  7. I am loved
  8. I am deserving of love
  9. I am kind to myself
  10. Love flows from within me
  11. I am beautiful, inside and out
  12. I embrace my unique individuality
  13. I deserve happiness
  14. I let go of negative self-talk
  15. I am whole
  16. Everything I need is within me
  17. I am in control of my happiness
  18. I am capable of reaching my goals
  19. I accept myself unconditionally
  20. I do not let my fears hold me back
  21. I am grateful for all that I have
  22. I make time to care for myself
  23. I love and accept all of me
  24. Loving myself comes easily and naturally
  25. I am strong and resilient
  26. I am successful
  27. My capacity for love is infinite
  28. I let go of those who do not have my best interests at heart
  29. I let go of my past and live in the present
  30. I am growing each and every day
  31. I forgive myself and learn from my mistakes
  32. I am a work of art
  33. I am valued
  34. I allow myself to feel deeply
  35. I am open to receive love
  36. I love the body I was born with
  37. I can achieve anything I set my mind to
  38. I overcome challenges with grace and ease
  39. I have a warm and caring heart
  40. I am exactly who I need to be in this moment
  41. I send love to my fears and doubts
  42. I deflect negativity
  43. I believe in myself
  44. I can say no when something does not serve me
  45. I let go of that which no longer serves me
  46. I accept compliments easily
  47. I release any need for suffering
  48. I have a lot to offer the world
  49. I love every part of what makes me who I am
  50. I am blanketed in the Universes’ loving energy
  51. My life is filled with love and joy
  52. I have always and will always try my best
  53. I have achieved great things
  54. I respect myself
  55. My life is a place of balance and harmony
  56. I have the power to change my world
  57. I choose to stop apologizing for being me
  58. I am not my mistakes or my flaws
  59. Others accept and love me for who I am
  60. I prioritize myself and my needs
  61. I radiate confidence
  62. My mind is filled with loving thoughts
  63. I attract positive and loving people into my life
  64. The more I practice loving myself, the more lovable I become
  65. I let love in
  66. I let my love for myself increase each day
  67. Love flows freely from inside of me
  68. I practice self-compassion when I do not succeed
  69. I honour my own life path
  70. I honour and respect my limitations
  71. I have so much to love about myself
  72. My life is a reflection of the love inside me
  73. The only approval I need is my own
  74. I radiate love
  75. I love my own company
  76. I do not need anyone to feel worthy
  77. I attract love and light
  78. I release the need to judge myself negatively
  79. Today I start loving myself more
  80. I am capable of loving fully and completely
  81. I treat my body with love and care
  82. I am powerful and confident
  83. I trust in my ability to make it through difficult times
  84. I trust my intuition
  85. My life is full of endless opportunities for success and happiness
  86. My inner world creates my outer world
  87. I reward myself for my hard work and dedication
  88. I am balanced
  89. The universe supports me, always
  90. I have a loving relationship with my body
  91. I can choose self-love whenever I desire
  92. Loving myself means I am able to love others more
  93. I have a positive and healing effect on others
  94. I have so much to celebrate in life
  95. I am proud of myself
  96. I choose to view my life positively
  97. My body is my best friend
  98. I choose to nourish my health
  99. I am the healer of my own life
  100. I am love

 

 

Daily affirmations for self-esteem – final thought

You now have an idea of everything about positive affirmations. It’s now your turn to pick the affirmation that are relevant to you and say them to yourself on a daily basis.

Affirmations are not something that you simply say once off and expect to see massive improvements.

The secret is repetition (do it regularly) and feel each word as you say them, experience what you’re saying.

Wait and see how affirmations will change and improve your life for the better.

Which of these affirmations for self-esteem resonates the most with you today?

Comment below, feel free to ask me questions. I am more than happy to answer anytime.

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How To Live In The Present Moment! – Simple Guide!

Fair too often we are caught up in the busy schedule of life and wonder where did the day go?, or hasn’t that week flown by, or the summer will be soon over. This happens because you’re so busy in life just doing that you forget how to be.

At some point or the other, all of us have inevitably found ourselves wanting to just leave it all and go far away from all the rush, from all the noise and just be in peace with our own self.

There is too much rushing, too much achieving in this overly fast paced world. If you find yourself in such a position then it is actually reminding you that you need to slow things down and go slow with life. Step outside the rush.

Learning how to slow down in life is a challenge by itself, especially for those who seem to work non-stop, or those who feel guilty for taking a break as they think I could be doing this, or doing that.

But living in the fast lane comes at a price, that price is you’re missing out on your life. The time you spending planning, working, doing, rushing and all the other things that lead to hectic life, takes away living in the moment and experiencing what it truly feels like to be alive.

This is so profound, yet what is it to be alive?  Although I cannot concretely answer that question for you, through my personal experience I have found that people feel the most alive when they are truly experiencing the present moment.  Those times when you are able to slow down and pay attention.

 

 

How to live in the present moment

Is your mindset keeping you from living life in the present moment?

Your mindset may hold certain beliefs that keep you stuck in the fast lane. These could come from personal experience, habits, things you’ve learned growing up or the pressure of society.

Take a step back and a moment to reflect on your mindset and your beliefs on why you shouldn’t be slowing down from a fast-paced life.

What do these beliefs mean to you?

Here are some examples of beliefs you may have about slowing down:

  • If I take a break or slow down, I’m lazy
  • Things won’t get done.
  • I could be doing something else in the time I’m taking a break
  • I need to be doing more to be more successful than Joe Bloggs next door, and the only way I can do that is by working harder- even if it stresses me out.

The ironic thing is that you will actually be more productive and efficient if you take breaks and pay attention to what you are doing in the moment. This is because living in the present moment increases your focus.

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When you work yourself into the ground without no break, and constantly move from task to task, you are not fully living in the present moment and therefore are not fully engaged. As a result, you are living your life in auto-pilot mode.

This can result in two things happening:

  • You are not fully focused; therefore, you’re not putting the best work into things. This is because you are just thinking about moving onto the next task.
  • You are burning yourself out by never taking breaks or slowing down.

 

How can you live in the present moment?

While you’re rushing about from task to task, somebody else is living in the present moment and time is moving much slower for them. It is the same number of seconds ticking by, the same minutes and hours pass by, but it is your perception of those moments that is different.

Your perception is your reality, therefore if you find that you seem to be rushing through life then the answer lies in changing your perception.  Some of that may originate in identifying and changing your anxious thoughts.

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Additionally, you can practice Mindfulness by being aware of your senses (touch, sight, hearing, taste, and smell) in the present moment.  This is one of the most effective ways to truly bring you into experiencing this moment fully.

Try it now and pay attention to what is around you.  Notice how you feel.

 

 

Tips to help you slow down in life:

Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness meditation or practicing mindful awareness regularly can make it easier to slow down life.  By observing your thoughts non-judgmentally, you can increase your awareness when you are rushing around for no particular reason.  This can help you to approach your life and certain situations with presence and focus, instead of just rushing through them to get to the next thing.

 

Minimise Distractions

Distractions such as a smartphone or television can make it harder for you to focus on the present moment and take you down a black hole in your mind without you even realising it.  Leave your phone in your car or put it on “do not disturb” to prevent distractions so you can be fully present and appreciate the things and people in front of you.

 

Give Yourself Reminders

Little reminders can be helpful so that you remember to slow down and pay attention.  Whether it is a phone wallpaper, a sign on your desk, or a decal on your mirror… visual reminders to slow down can get you out of your head and into the present.

 

Go for a walk and look around at nature

Head out for a walk and make yourself take notice at everything around you – the sounds; trees; flowers; etc.  Connect again with the world around you and allow yourself to walk gently – not racing around.

 

Take Breaks

Taking breaks at home, work, or school can help you stop anxious thinking or stop feeling stressed.  Taking a break can help you to refocus and reflect.

Some helpful things to do on a break are taking a walk, taking deep breaths, or eating mindfully.  These are examples of breaks that bring you fully into your present moment experience, and out of the stress of overthinking and rushing.

 

Enjoy the little things

Getting to enjoy life more is one of the perks of living a slow life.

First, you need to learn to notice what is happening around you. Notice the breeze, the flowers, the clouds. Notice the smell of things.

 

 

How to live in the present moment – Final thought

If you can cultivate present moment awareness, then you can learn how to slow down and appreciate life.  Appreciation comes from actually paying attention to yourself, your body, your environment, and the people around you- not rushing from one thing to the next.

So, the next time you find yourself caught in a frenzy of stress, overwhelm, and frustration, ask yourself:

How can I choose to slow down and live in the present moment today?

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Gratitude Journaling Prompts – 50 Prompts!

Journaling is quickly becoming more popular, with hordes of people starting their day by opening the pages of their notebook and writing.

Writing has long been recommended by counsellors and psychologists as a way to work through our emotions, and many find that it’s a great way to reduce stress, improve decision making, and get to know themselves better.

I personally find that getting my feelings and worries out on the page stops me from going over them so much in my mind.

Free writing can sometimes feel daunting though, so one of my favourite ways to journal is to use prompts.

These are questions that can be used to gain a better understanding of ourselves and take note of things that might need addressing.

Gratitude has become a positive psychology intervention that is used in several settings. Research in this field has found that the practice of being thankful in life is strongly associated with well-being and happiness.

Gratitude facilitates meaning- finding in our ordinary life events which is fuel for psychological resilience.

The practice of gratitude has been found to increase positive emotions, altruistic behaviour, and reduce physical complaints, stress, depression, and worry.

Indeed research has found that gratitude is linked to all levels of well-being and has become a popular intervention that fosters positive functioning and psychological strengths.

 

 

Why is gratitude so hard to practice?

Let’s face it, it’s easier to focus on what we don’t have, our imperfections, and our problems than it is to be grateful for what we have.

Between the violence, natural disasters, and divisive political climate, it’s been a rough year for many of us.

We’re inundated with negatives nearly 24/7 from the news, social media, and even in-person conversations.

So, we have to work extra hard to find the good in ourselves and the world around us.

 

How to journal

If you are new to the journal writing process, don’t panic.

It’s pretty simple. All you need is a journal (or notepad) and a pen.

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So now you have your amazing journal, find a quiet space, grab a cup of coffee (…or wine) and take some time to yourself.

I love using journal prompts because sometimes when I sit down to write I just stare at the blank page not knowing what to write about.

Only when I actually dig deeper and ask myself some tough questions do I discover how many thoughts, feelings and views I have!

 

Why you should use gratitude prompts

You might look down at your gratitude journal to see that you were thankful for coffee five days in a row.

Now, you may be grateful for that brown liquid gold, but you need to take the time to think more deeply and appreciate more deeply.

That’s why these gratitude journal prompts are so helpful. Answer a question every day and you’ll focus on a different aspect of your life regularly.

Some blessings you may have never considered before.

Often, we need a little nudge to do things well. In this case, use that gentle push to greatly improve your thoughts and your life.

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What to do if you don’t know what to write about?

If you’re struggling to find something to thankful for, start small. There are always things to be grateful for, even on our darkest days, but we have to look harder for them.

Like digging for buried treasure, it takes effort, but the reward is great.

Try to identify one good thing – a supportive person, a comfy sweater, hot water, or even that you’re able to read this article.

Try to stay open-minded. Your first response might still be to minimize the positives and focus on the negatives, but by practicing gratitude we can actually train ourselves to spot the positives.

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This means that with practice, it will become easier to identify things you’re grateful for and you’ll develop an open and joyful heart, as well as a greater appreciation for yourself and the world around you.

Gratitude doesn’t make our problems disappear, but it helps them feel more manageable.

But, if you just simply can’t think of anything, I’ve got your back.

Check out these gratitude journal prompts that will help you achieve clarity and help your mental health.

 

Gratitude journaling prompts

So, what do you write on your journal?

  • If you’re not sure what put down or are out of ideas for the moment, here’s a huge list of journal prompts you can try.
  • See which ones apply most to your life and start with those. From there, you can slowly go through the list and complete them all.
  • Name a person you are thankful for that shaped who you are today.
  • What is something from each of your senses you are grateful for today? (Sight, smell, taste, touch, sound)
  • What challenge did you overcome that you now see the benefit in?
  • What book are you grateful for and why? What are the teachings?
  • What are you grateful for about your town? Your time period? Your country?
  • What are you most grateful for in your morning or night routine?
  • Name three everyday objects that you are grateful for.
  • What music are you most grateful for?
  • Name three unique things you are grateful for so far this year.
  • Name three people you are grateful for outside of your immediate family. Why?
  • What brings you gratitude with the passing of time? Something you notice more than you used to.
  • What do you love most about each season of the year?
  • What discovery have you made in the last year that you are thankful for?
  • What food did you eat today? Take a moment to share gratitude for the food and water that sustains you and imagine where it came from.
  • Do you have shelter? A warm place to sleep? Food on your table? Spend a few minutes being grateful for the necessities in life.
  • What have you learned this year that has benefited you?
  • What person are you most grateful for and why?
  • What is something hard or mundane that you do, and you’re grateful it makes you stronger?
  • What is something in your home that brings you great joy?
  • What positive memory happened in the last week that you are thankful for?
  • What did you do today that made you happy?
  • What aspect of nature did you appreciate in the last week?
  • Who is a friend you’re grateful for and why?
  • List three people that have made your life better. (Bonus: thank them today!)
  • Write one moment or memory in your life that you will cherish forever.
  • What do you love most about life?
  • What was a wonderful thing that happened today?
  • What is something you take for granted?
  • What do you love about yourself?
  • What tradition are you grateful for?
  • Tell of a place that you cherish.
  • What is your favourite time of day and why do you love it?
  • Tell of a way someone helped you recently.
  • What is something amazing that happened to you in the last week, month, or year?
  • Name one thing you are grateful for regarding each person in your family.
  • What is your favourite gratitude quote? What does it make you think of?
  • Name one luxury you enjoy on a daily or weekly basis.
  • What do you love about your job?
  • What is your favourite place in your home? Why?
  • Describe your favourite vacation/holiday.
  • Describe the last time you helped someone. How did it feel?
  • What’s a guilty pleasure you are thankful for?
  • Name an accomplishment you are proud of.
  • Write down the best gift you’ve ever received.
  • Describe something beautiful that is outside of your window.
  • What do you love most about your family?
  • What do you love most about your friends?
  • What activities in your day are your thankful for?
  • Name one thing that made you smile or laugh today.
  • What is something beautiful you saw today?

 

 

Conclusion

Gratitude is a very powerful tool in helping you become a more positive person.

By writing them down on a journal, you’re able to keep track of all the good things that have happened in your life.

This makes is doubly powerful allowing you to go back and remember specific situations.

In case you’re not sure what to write about or are out of ideas, the list above contains tons of journal prompts to help you.

What do you write in your journal, I would love to hear your ideas?

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Ways to Practice Gratitude – Simple Guide!

The benefits of having a daily gratitude practice are nearly endless. This is a simple practice but the challenge is taking the time to integrate it into your daily life.

It can take 21 days to form a habit and then it will become more second nature. Committing to taking time each day to notice and reflect on the things that have gone well during the day, that you are thankful for increases your health and well-being.

The practice of gratitude has been studied in the field of positive psychology the study of what makes life worth living.

Gratitude has become a positive psychology intervention that is used in several settings. Research in this field has found that the practice of being thankful in life is strongly associated with well-being and happiness.

Gratitude facilitates “meaning- finding” in our ordinary life events which is fuel for psychological resilience.

The practice of gratitude has been found to increase positive emotions, altruistic behaviour, and reduce physical complaints, stress, depression, and worry.

Indeed research has found that gratitude is linked to all levels of well-being and has become a popular intervention that fosters positive functioning and psychological strengths.

 

 

Ways to practice gratitude

Taking time to appreciate the good things in the world can easily be built into your daily life. Here are some simple steps to help you cultivate a daily gratitude practice:

 

1. Commit

We always seem to resist what is good for us. You may not always feel motivated to complete this practice but do it anyway. Don’t let excuses get in your way. It will still have benefits even if you have to force yourself some days. Commit to doing this daily and it will soon become a habit like brushing your teeth.

 

2. Begin

It may be helpful to pick a time each day that you will complete your gratitude practice. It may be first thing in the morning, during your lunch break, or in the evening.

Once you have a schedule made for yourself take out a journal either in paper format or you can use your computer and begin.

You can start with, “I am grateful for…”

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This can be difficult in the beginning to connect to the things you are grateful especially if your life is not what you would like it to look like.

There are always things in our life that are going well. It may be just that you are breathing, that you showered, maybe a smile on a stranger’s face, etc.

Try to find new things each day you can be grateful for rather than just repeating the same things each day.

Tap into your creativity. Again, this may feel odd when you first start. You have just planted a seed and with nurturing this practice it will blossom.

 

3. Feel it

Allow yourself to feel grateful not just in your mind but in your body. Feel the warmth of appreciation, love, and connection.

Allow it to seep into your pores as you embody it. Place a hand on your heart as you feel your body being lifted as it radiates through you.

You may not always be able to feel gratitude in an embodied way but when you do savour it. Allow it to fill your heart and use its energy as fuel in your life.

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4. Continue even after you start to see results

Too often people take a break from the practice once they start to see results. When one does this the results also begin to diminish.

Commit to making this a lifelong practice. You may miss a day here and there as you are only human but just continue to come back consciously noticing and reflecting on what is going well in your life and what you are thankful for.

 

Be creative with your practice

Finding new and creative ways to integrate gratitude into your everyday life can keep things fun. The field of positive psychology has outlined many different gratitude practices that you can find here.

It is important that you make this practice your own and so it has personal meaning for you.

We should not do things because we believe we should when it does not resonate with this. There are indeed several things you can do to improve your health and happiness, but it is up to you to put your signature on it, make it meaningful to you and you will reap even more rewards.

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Incorporate gratitude into your mediation

Gratitude meditation is simply the practice of reflecting on the things in our lives we’re grateful for. It’s about experiencing that feeling of appreciation, whether for a loving family member or friend, a beautiful sunny day, or the pleasure of a good cup of coffee.

It can be for things large or small- perhaps a successful recovery from an injury or illness, or a tough life lesson you weathered, where you came out the other side stronger and more confident.

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It’s easy to get caught up in current events and the negativity of the news cycle, but in fact those things often have little to do with who we are and how we experience the world on a day-to-day basis. A grateful meditation is not about becoming desensitised to suffering or social injustice, it’s a way of bringing us back to a place of personal reflection.

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Share your gratitude practice

Our relationships can be the source of our greatest happiness. Incorporating people into your practice can help boost your experience.

You can partner with someone which will help keep you accountable and motivate you on the days you may struggle with the practice.

It may also help to see what other people have written as part of their practice making it easier to also notice those things in your life.

Sharing the things, we are grateful for with our family and friends can have several additional benefits. This can be a practice that is also built into family routines such as before dinner or at breakfast.

Another way to boost the influence of gratitude is a gratitude letter. This involves writing a letter to someone who had a positive impact on your life that you have never thanked properly.

You can send this letter to them or visit them and read it to them. Too often we fail to thank the people who have added value to our lives.

Taking the time to formally express this to them expands the reaches of your gratitude practice. Bringing more care and love into this world is a very powerful thing, do not think this is trivial, it is grand.

 

Benefits of a gratitude practice

There are so many different benefits you can accumulate from this practice. It has been proven to have a positive impact on your psychological and physical health.

People report fewer pains and aches and report greater health with more exercise and doctor check-ups than those who do not practice. It also has been shown to improve your quality of sleep.

It can help you improve your self-esteem and helps you make better friendships. Research shows that thanking an acquittance makes them more likely to seek a lasting relationship with you.

It also enhances your empathy and reduces aggression. Gratitude lessens your likelihood of holding grudges again others but instead offers more room for forgiveness and understanding.

Grateful people also increase their mental strength which can help boost their resiliency and ability to bounce back after highly distressing situations.

 

 

Ways to practice gratitude – Final thought

Let’s be real for a second. It’s impossible to be grateful all the time. Sometimes we experience seasons in our life when gratitude is a struggle.

People who practice gratitude will still experience sadness or other negative emotions. This is all normal and you should never feel guilty for not being grateful all the time.

Let’s start today’s gratitude practice, what are YOU grateful for today?

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