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How to Slow Down and Enjoy Life – Tips to Calm Down Your Hectic Life!

Fair too often we are caught up in the busy schedule of life and wonder “where did the day go?”, or “hasn’t that week flown by”, or “the summer will be soon over”. This happens because you’re so busy in life just doing that you forget how to be.

At some point or the other, all of us have inevitably found ourselves wanting to just leave it all and go far away from all the rush, from all the noise and just be in peace with our own self.

There is too much rushing, too much achieving in this overly fast paced world. If you find yourself in such a position then it is actually reminding you that you need to slow things down and go slow with life. Step outside the rush.

Learning how to slow down in life is a challenge by itself, especially for those who seem to work non-stop, or those who feel guilty for taking a break as they think “I could be doing this, or doing that”.

But living in the fast lane comes at a price, that price is you’re missing out on your life. The time you spending planning, working, doing, rushing and all the other things that lead to hectic life, takes away living in the moment and experiencing what it truly feels like to be alive.

This is so profound, yet what is it to be alive?  Although I cannot concretely answer that question for you, through my personal experience I have found that people feel the most alive when they are truly experiencing the present moment.  Those times when you are able to slow down and pay attention.

 

 

Is your mindset keeping you from living life in the present moment?

Your mindset may hold certain beliefs that keep you stuck in the fast lane. These could come from personal experience, habits, things you’ve learned growing up or the pressure of society.

Take a step back and a moment to reflect on your mindset and your beliefs on why you shouldn’t be slowing down from a fast-paced life.

What do these beliefs mean to you?

Here are some examples of beliefs you may have about slowing down:

  • If I take a break or slow down, I’m lazy
  • Things won’t get done.
  • I could be doing something else in the time I’m taking a break
  • I need to be doing more to be more successful than Joe Bloggs next door, and the only way I can do that is by working harder- even if it stresses me out.

The ironic thing is that you will actually be more productive and efficient if you take breaks and pay attention to what you are doing in the moment. This is because living in the present moment increases your focus.

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When you work yourself into the ground without no break, and constantly move from task to task, you are not fully living in the present moment and therefore are not fully engaged. As a result, you are living your life in auto-pilot mode.

This can result in two things happening:

  • You are not fully focused; therefore, you’re not putting the best work into things. This is because you are just thinking about moving onto the next task.
  • You are burning yourself out by never taking breaks or slowing down.

 

How can you live in the present moment?

While you’re rushing about from task to task, somebody else is living in the present moment and time is moving much slower for them. It is the same number of seconds ticking by, the same minutes and hours pass by, but it is your perception of those moments that is different.

Your perception is your reality, therefore if you find that you seem to be rushing through life then the answer lies in changing your perception.  Some of that may originate in identifying and changing your anxious thoughts.

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Additionally, you can practice Mindfulness by being aware of your senses (touch, sight, hearing, taste, and smell) in the present moment.  This is one of the most effective ways to truly bring you into experiencing this moment fully.

Try it now and pay attention to what is around you.  Notice how you feel.

Top tip:

Read my post on how Mindfulness changed my life around!

 

 

Tips to help you slow down in life:

 Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness meditation or practicing mindful awareness regularly can make it easier to slow down life.  By observing your thoughts non-judgmentally, you can increase your awareness when you are rushing around for no particular reason.  This can help you to approach your life and certain situations with presence and focus, instead of just rushing through them to get to the next thing.

 

Minimise Distractions

Distractions such as a smartphone or television can make it harder for you to focus on the present moment and take you down a black hole in your mind without you even realising it.  Leave your phone in your car or put it on “do not disturb” to prevent distractions so you can be fully present and appreciate the things and people in front of you.

 

Give Yourself Reminders

Little reminders can be helpful so that you remember to slow down and pay attention.  Whether it is a phone wallpaper, a sign on your desk, or a decal on your mirror… visual reminders to slow down can get you out of your head and into the present.

 

Go for a walk and look around at nature.

Head out for a walk and make yourself take notice at everything around you – the sounds; trees; flowers; etc.  Connect again with the world around you and allow yourself to walk gently – not racing around.

 

Take Breaks

Taking breaks at home, work, or school can help you stop anxious thinking or stop feeling stressed.  Taking a break can help you to refocus and reflect.

Some helpful things to do on a break are taking a walk, taking deep breaths, or eating mindfully.  These are examples of breaks that bring you fully into your present moment experience, and out of the stress of overthinking and rushing.

 

Enjoy the little things:

Getting to enjoy life more is one of the perks of living a slow life.

First, you need to learn to notice what is happening around you. Notice the breeze, the flowers, the clouds. Notice the smell of things.

 

How to slow down and enjoy life – Final thought

If you can cultivate present moment awareness, then you can learn how to slow down and appreciate life.  Appreciation comes from actually paying attention to yourself, your body, your environment, and the people around you- not rushing from one thing to the next.

So, the next time you find yourself caught in a frenzy of stress, overwhelm, and frustration, ask yourself:

“How can I choose to slow down today?”

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Why is Mindfulness Important? – Read How Mindfulness Changed My Life!

Why is Mindfulness important?  In this post I will explain what Mindfulness is, give a brief description on how implementing the practice has helped me turn my life around, and how it can help you.

In August 2020 I had the worst week for a very long time. I was taken to hospital twice and felt like my world was crashing down around me. After seeing a mental health specialist, they told me I had PTSD which began at the start of the lockdown in March 2020.

The PTSD began because I didn’t get to see my children for seven weeks at the beginning of the lockdown.

It brought back all the feelings I had buried from a time in my life that I thought I had put behind me.

In my mind, I was living that awful time again.

It took me five months to crack in the end, and in August I lost it big time.

The Mental Health team wanted to put me back on medication, so I discharged myself and decided to help myself.

Now that I knew what was wrong with me, I truly believed I could help myself.

I was adamant to not go down the medication route again, as I had only been off them for several months.

After having help throughout that week In August from an old friend who is a qualified Psychotherapeutic Counsellor and Hypnotherapist, he pointed me in the direction of some videos on Mindfulness that changed my life.

 

 

 My journey to Mindfulness

I will always appreciate the NHS for saving my life, but if I listened to the Mental Health Team on that day in August when I relapsed, I would be back on medication, recycling the same old patterns that got me into such a mess before.

Before turning my life around, I was on multiple medications for severe anxiety and depression, and was unable to sleep. I would often go six/seven days straight without sleep. That’s when the heavy drinking started.

Sleeping tablets wouldn’t work, and in order to get much needed sleep, I would drink alcohol and down two/three sleeping tablets to knock myself out.

Once you get into this routine, it’s a slippery slope that snowballs fast.

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I would often go two or three weeks without drinking, and when I couldn’t sleep, I would resort back to old patterns of alcohol and sleeping tablets.

I couldn’t sleep because my mind would be overloading me with illusions none stop. It would be thinking of bad situations that hadn’t happened, or I would beat myself up mentally about past events.

These were complete illusions of mind, that can be calmed down through Mindfulness.

If I knew what I did now, I wouldn’t have gone through all that mental torture over those five years, which eventually caught up with me, and resulted in me nearly losing my life.

Top tip:

Some great Youtube channels that I use for mindfulness videos, are the following:

 

 

What is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is a modern concept that describes the adoption of a new mindset, which can be measurably alter one’s outlook and mood, and is used as an empowering tool in the self-management of anxiety and stress.

Here is a summary of the concept:

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To gain an understanding of what Mindfulness is, it is good idea first to explain what it is not. Unlike other forms of treatment for anxiety and stress, such as taking medication, it is not a quick fix and takes time and application to achieve permanent results.

However, if the guidance, mindset and exercises and applied and reinforced on a daily basis, the result becomes a feature of your life and therefore does, over time, create permanent change.

 

 

A deeper understanding of Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a mental state that is achievement by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feeling, thoughts and bodily sensations – used as a therapeutic technique.

Hence, Mindfulness is the practice of being aware in every possible moment, while keeping a non-judgement outlook and, at the same time, observing your own bodily and emotional responses.

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To do this, you should begin to the ‘self’ and any reactions to situations and others in a dispassionate way. In other words, not be a slave to our own thoughts and the emotions that they generate, but to step back and access before the usual reaction takes place.

Mindfulness is about taking a holistic approach to the self, i.e. mind, body and spirit. So, to practice Mindfulness fully, it is important to look at oneself as a spiritual being. Being of the new outlook, practices such as meditation and Yoga can also be utilised to being calm and peace to the mind and body, while employing a more detached and philosophical and spiritual outlook.

 

How Mindfulness has helped me

After I discharged myself from hospital, it took me a few days to regroup. I then started a course in Mindfulness, began reading a book and watching videos on YouTube all related to the subject.

Within a few weeks I could really notice the difference when putting Mindfulness into practice. The more I focused and stayed in the present moment, the more peaceful my mind had become.

The difference this time, the illusions of the mind wasn’t taking me over. The more I starved the mind of attention, the more it calmed down.

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Every time a bad memory would appear or I would feel anger, anxiety or stress, I would observe it in my mind and then resort back to the present moment.

The more you stay in the now, the more conscious you become, you quickly start to take control over your mind.

The key to Mindfulness is to be persistent and consistent. It’s a practice that needs to put to work day in day out.

I touched on being mindful in the past, but since August 2020 I have been consistently using Mindfulness every day.

Being mindful, combined with meditation is a powerful tool that will transform your life if used correctly.

It has made a massive difference in my life already.

Top tip:

The below channels on YouTube are great for guided meditations;

Create channels for meditation music:

If you want to learn about meditation, the follow channel is excellent:

If you’re interested in learning more in-depth about meditation, then the below books are excellent:

 

 

Why is Mindfulness Important? – Final thought

I believe mindfulness should at least be taught in the last year of school. Kids leave school thinking if I get this qualification, or this job it will make me happy. It doesn’t, and it’s taken me to nearly 40 to realise this, and I’m sure many people will go through their whole lives without knowing.

Happiness begins with you and from within. You can’t be truly happy if your mind controls you with bad thoughts and made up stories that will never happen, these are illusions of the mind.

Learning to live in the present moment is the best self-development tool you could possibly obtain from life, everything else will fall into place once you get the inside right.

I have touched on mindfulness and similar practices in the past, but never taken it seriously. In just four months it has changed my life.

72% of GP’s think it be helpful for people with mental health issues to learn mindfulness, but anti-depressants etc are dished out like smarties.

I’ve only been doing this consistently for a short time and the change in my mindset is night and day.

If you’re struggling mentally, look into what I’m saying. There is so much information out there.

Any questions then please leave them below.

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Changing Your Mindset – 8 Things That Helped Me Turn My Life Around!

Originally when I created this website back in April 2020, it was meant to be a place just for information on how to make and save money.

Over time the website has evolved into more than just a ‘Money niche’ site and along with that I have evolved as a person.

Back in Sept 2019 I spent a period of time in hospital with liver failure, where I come very close to dying. This came as result of 5 years of battling depression, anxiety and alcoholism.

Since leaving the hospital towards the end of 2019 I have turned my life around.

I was on eight different types of medication after leaving hospital for all sorts of issues. I am now medication free and living a happy life.

My mindset has had a complete overhaul and I continue to learn and evolve as person each day that passes by.

I have created a Lifestyle category within MyDoshTips where I will be sharing what has helped me in my journey turning my life around. Eventually I will be creating a website just for this information, but for now it can be found here.

Mental health has always been an important topic to me, I think it’s crucial to get this sort of information out to people.

If my posts help just one person then it’s worth it. I was as low as one person can be, so if I can turn it around, then anybody can.

In this short simple guide, I will provide a break down of what has helped me along the way and give links to books or sources that I have used.

 

 

Mindfulness

I can’t explain how much this practice has changed my life. When you’re mindful your life will transform massively.

By living in the present moment, you become at peace with your past thoughts and illusions made up in your mind.

Observe your thoughts, become at peace with them, take away the emotional attachment.

When you find your mind wandering, revert back to the present moment.

The more you live in the present moment, the mind quickly loses control over you. The mind is a tool that should be working for you, not controlling you.

This takes a lot of practice, as your mind has spent so many years in control. The mind has been projecting its illusions on you all your life.

Purchase a book, research it on YouTube. The mindfulness practice is life changing when used consistently and persistently.

But it can be done, your mindset can be changed completely.

Meditating to a guided meditation for mindfulness is great way to start the day.

 

 

Read/watch videos on self-development

I never use to read, now I cannot stop.

There are so many good books and people out there to follow for self-development.

Read a chapter of a book and watch one video a day. This soon gets you motivated and before you know it, you will be researching the subject in-depth.

One good book or one inspirational video can change your outlook on life and give you that bit of hope you have been looking for.

One thing I have learned the past year, is that the more I learn, the more I realise how much actually don’t know.

I have unlearned everything I have been taught since I was a child.

I’m learning every day and constantly evolving as a person. My mind is like a sponge, soaking in all the new information.

Top tip:

The below channels from YouTube have had an amazing influence on me for self-development:

I also recommend the below books to read:

 

 

Meditation

I thought this was complete nonsense a few years ago, now I love it.

After 5 years of being on every medication known to man for chronic depression and anxiety, the one thing that calmed my mind beyond belief, if done properly, is meditation.

This helps you become at peace with your thoughts, and also mindful meditation helps you stay in the present moment.

I try to meditate three times day. First thing in the morning, once in the day and right before bed. If I’m too busy, I just meditate in the morning and before bed.

Meditation will seem like a chore at first, but the more you practice, it will become more of a enjoyable experience that you will look forward to.

There are tonnes of videos on YouTube to help you get started.

Top tip:

The below channels on YouTube are great for guided meditations;

If you want to learn about meditation, the follow channel is excellent:

If you’re interested in learning more in-depth about meditation, then the below books are excellent:

 

 

Create a daily health checklist

This can be anything you want.

Mine consists of a morning workout first thing, meditation, read a chapter of a book, go for a walk, stay off social media through certain periods of the day.

Make sure you shower every day, do your hair and make your bed. When you do these simple steps, it makes you feel better about yourself.

Drink lots of water, eat healthy, this makes you feel good. I eat healthy six days a week, then have a cheat day on a Sunday.

I also watch a few videos from YouTube on self-development everyday.

 

Gratitude

I show gratitude every day to the people in my life and for the life I live.

Everyone has bad days, but it could always be worse.

I try to focus on the good I have in my life, instead of what I don’t have.

I write down things I’m grateful for each day, put them in a jar, and when I feel low, I read them all, and it soon makes me realise of all the good I have in my life.

Meditating to a guided meditations for gratitude, also helps you appreciate the simple and small things in life.

Being grateful makes you fall in love with the life you already have.

Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had.

 

Set goals

Set daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. Mine consist of work, studying, financial and fitness goals, but it can be anything you want.

The sense of writing your goals down and ticking them off, is a great feeling of achievement.

Focus on what you have achieved and what you have not.

Set peace of mind as your top priority goal and everything else will fall into place.

Top tip:

Have a read of my post below for help with setting financial goals:

 

 

Communication

When you have a heavy mind and life is a struggle, talk to someone.

This was a massive mistake I made, I kept it all in. I still struggle to talk these days, but I’m much better than I was.

By getting your issues out and talking about them, it helps massively.

A problem shared is a problem halved.

 

Negative/poisoness people

I have removed a lot of negative/poisoness people from my life.

My circle is small, no outside drama gets in that way.

A lot of people seemed to get some weird kick out of seeing me struggle.

I was at the centre of gossip. But now I’ve turned things around, they don’t have much to say.

I hold no grudges towards these people, they only see things from their level of consciousness.

But I won’t give them the time of day anymore.

 

Changing your mindset – Final thought

If anyone needs to talk about any of this in more detail, or in general if you’re struggling, then please email me on adam@mydoshtips.com.

During the pandemic mental health has been thrown to the wolves, so we all need to stick together and help each other out when we can.

Don’t drown in your own mind, when there is so much you can do to help yourself.

I turned it around from as low as one man can be, so anyone can.

It’s ok to not be ok.

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